Domestic Violence is characterized by a pattern of physical, sexual, emotional or psychological abusive behaviors used by one partner in a relationship to control another.

Physical abuse is a CRIME. It may include, but is not limited to: pushing, shoving, slapping, punching, biting, choking, throwing items at the victim, shooting, stabbing, fingers in the nose and boxing the ears. Also threats to hit with weapons or objects as well as holding, tying down or restraining of the victim.

Emotional and psychological abuse is an attempt to control the victim by fear and intimidation. Examples include: abandonment in dangerous places; neglect, refusing help when the victim is sick or hurt; not letting the victim eat or sleep; threats to harm self, children or other family members; physical or social isolation; extreme jealousy or possessiveness; repetitive degradation; false accusations, consistent blame for everything; lying, breaking promises, destroying trust; “mind games;” and driving fast or recklessly to frighten or intimidate.

Sexual abuse is a crime even when the victim is a spouse. It may include, but is not limited to: force or threat of force to perform any sexual act against the victim’s will; infliction of pain during sexual intercourse; limiting reproductive freedom, including the use of birth control; sexual harassment; and calling of sexually derogatory names.

Get rid of all hard feelings, anger and rage. Stop all fighting
and lying. Don’t have anything to do with any kind of hatred.
Ephesians 4:31
New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)

Domestic abuse is defined by the victim’s perception- not the perpetrator’s excuses.


Individuals stay in abusive relationships for a variety of reasons: lack of economic resources, fear of losing their children, lack of awareness of shelters and programs available, love for partner (not the abuse), family members’ encouragement, religious values, and fear of the perpetrator.

Abuse may frequently include forms of isolation from the outside world resulting in limited personal freedom and accessibility to resources.

Over time, abuse tends to escalate in severity and frequency.

Local Domestic Violence Shelter Service:
Catholic Charities
Crisis Line: 1-800-273-9012 or 601-366-0222

Center for Violence Prevention
Crisis Line: 1-800-266-4198 or 601-932-4198

Summit Counseling is here to help those who are suffering from domestic abuse. For more information and counseling, call us or visit us on the web.